Sticky Wedding Situations: The parents of the bride or groom are recently divorced…or divorced by many years and still hold grudges. This one comes up more than you want to know. I’ve only seen a few occasions where the grownups didn’t act grown up. The best thing to do, is to try to keep them apart…plan to not have them sit right next to each other in the ceremony or the reception. If you want both parents to walk you up the aisle, they should do it with grace. I think a little heart to heart talk ahead of the ceremony is also a good idea. And, if it is difficult for you to broach the subject, ask a friend or family member who has a good relationship with them to do it. The focus needs to be on YOUR wedding, and not on their past. Something along the lines of, “I understand that being with (blank) may be uncomfortable for you…but I have looked forward to this day my whole life. I only ask that the focus be on me and my sweetie…so, please try not to respond to any triggers…just for this day, and that will be the best gift I could receive.” Really, most divorced couples do behave, and by at least addressing the subject, it will hopefully reduce any stressful thoughts about what will or will not happen. You too, need to focus on your special day. And, if there is bad behavior, try not to give it much attention…so the 2-year old child in the adult is not rewarded for bad behavior. Sometimes, just a well place “look” will do the trick. The next topic: The new woman or new man in your parent’s life.